Is Your Ego The Perfect Size To Be a Great Leader?


How big is your ego? Too big? Too small? Just right?

We’re probably not the best judges of our own ego and whether it’s the right size to be a great leader. After all, our egos would get in the way and skew our judgment. But we certainly should recognize the importance of ego and its role in leadership.

Although ego isn’t a leadership skill it’s certainly one of the most important elements of measuring leadership. As Steven Smith, author of egonomics: What Makes Ego Our Greatest Asset (or Most Expensive Liability) points out in an interview with Guy Kawasaki:

“There are other important elements on the leadership ‘table,’ but ego has the most weight—in large part because of the affect it has on everything else.”

The interview itself is phenomenal. Ego is something I think about a lot (because mine is so huge right?!) and its impact on leadership and success. I firmly believe in the value of a healthy ego. I agree that a healthy ego helps when starting a company.

Steve Smith paints a beautiful picture of the healthy ego when he talks about humility. Remember: great leaders don’t have all the answers.

“Humility has a reputation of being the polar opposite of excessive ego. In fact, the exact opposite of excessive ego is no confidence at all. Humility provides the crucial balance between the two extremes. When Jim Collins did his work in Good to Great, humility was one of only two characteristics he discovered that separated leaders capable of leading good—even very good—performing companies, and leaders who made their companies great performers. And all of those leaders who lifted their companies to greatness and sustained them for over fifteen years did it in the same dog-eat-dog world everyone else was in. Humility was custom made for the dog-eat-dog business world.”

When it comes to entrepreneurs, I believe many of them are very close to achieving a healthy ego, but what’s missing is stability. So they swing wildly from ultra-confidence and a jubilant ego to feelings of uncertainty and fear. Steven Smith calls the perfect balance between ego and humility the “ego equilibrium”. That’s a very hard state for entrepreneurs to achieve while riding the startup rollercoaster. But it’s well worth gunning for.

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September 6, 2007 Posted in Business, Personal Development by

  • http://www.businessopportunitiesandideas.co.uk/ John

    And it takes a lot of self confidence to be able to show you humility in public…

  • http://www.businessopportunitiesandideas.co.uk/ John

    And it takes a lot of self confidence to be able to show you humility in public…

  • http://www.smarterreviews.com sam sanders

    I think for most of the past great leaders, there’s no “happy medium” or “balance between ego and humility”. It may not be politically correct to say, but if you want to be a great leader, you should have as huge an ego as possible. This is what inspires people to follow you.

    Napolean had it. Ceasar had it. Hitler had it (obviously he was a terrible person but he convinced people to follow him). General Custer believed he was good enough for his small force to beat a much larger Indian attack. (He wasn’t).

    Lately, Bill Gates, Larry Ellison, and Richard Branson are all huge egos with huge net worths.

  • http://www.smarterreviews.com sam sanders

    I think for most of the past great leaders, there’s no “happy medium” or “balance between ego and humility”. It may not be politically correct to say, but if you want to be a great leader, you should have as huge an ego as possible. This is what inspires people to follow you.

    Napolean had it. Ceasar had it. Hitler had it (obviously he was a terrible person but he convinced people to follow him). General Custer believed he was good enough for his small force to beat a much larger Indian attack. (He wasn’t).

    Lately, Bill Gates, Larry Ellison, and Richard Branson are all huge egos with huge net worths.

  • http://www.instigatorblog.com Ben Yoskovitz

    Sam – Your point of huge ego is exactly what Steven Smith is countering in his book. Might be worth checking out…I hope to (if I can get 5 minutes to do so!)

    As for the leaders you mention – I’m no historical expert, although having a strong family connection to what Hitler did I do know that time period reasonably well.

    Hitler certainly could motivate people. Great speaker. But he was a bully more than a leader. He took advantage of his own people, difficult economic times and strong-armed himself into power. That doesn’t make him a great leader.

    Surely we can think of better examples of TRUE leaders.

  • http://www.instigatorblog.com Ben Yoskovitz

    Sam – Your point of huge ego is exactly what Steven Smith is countering in his book. Might be worth checking out…I hope to (if I can get 5 minutes to do so!)

    As for the leaders you mention – I’m no historical expert, although having a strong family connection to what Hitler did I do know that time period reasonably well.

    Hitler certainly could motivate people. Great speaker. But he was a bully more than a leader. He took advantage of his own people, difficult economic times and strong-armed himself into power. That doesn’t make him a great leader.

    Surely we can think of better examples of TRUE leaders.

  • http://www.freetraffictip.com MorganLighter

    Ben – I used to have an ego so huge I could hardly get into a car unless the top was down – and I was absolutely miserable – but I didn’t know it. I now have a balanced ego – one could say that I have no ego which has dearly helped me with my becoming more humble, happier and balanced.

    I think Caesar had some issues and who wouldn’t if they were viewed as a god and Napoleon had interminable will and an understanding of leadership, rather than huge ego. They were both working for a cause, Napoleon’s was just a bit more popular and heroic.
    Being a student of WWII, I need not dwell on Hitler and his cronies, the damage they caused and the millions they slew. Hitler was imbalanced and was truly a megalomaniac who suffered from the effects of syphilis, which attacks the reasoning portion of the brain. That still doesn’t excuse his atrocious behavior.

    Sorry, just had to weigh in on Sam’s comment.

    It’s most important to have a healthy ego. I recently watched the interview with Gates and Jobs. Bill came across as an ass with a smug attitude, Steve’s comportment was that of a gentleman with class. So much for some egos.

    Thoughtful post. Thanks.

    Your huge ego? I saw no evidence of such an animal.

  • http://www.freetraffictip.com MorganLighter

    Ben – I used to have an ego so huge I could hardly get into a car unless the top was down – and I was absolutely miserable – but I didn’t know it. I now have a balanced ego – one could say that I have no ego which has dearly helped me with my becoming more humble, happier and balanced.

    I think Caesar had some issues and who wouldn’t if they were viewed as a god and Napoleon had interminable will and an understanding of leadership, rather than huge ego. They were both working for a cause, Napoleon’s was just a bit more popular and heroic.
    Being a student of WWII, I need not dwell on Hitler and his cronies, the damage they caused and the millions they slew. Hitler was imbalanced and was truly a megalomaniac who suffered from the effects of syphilis, which attacks the reasoning portion of the brain. That still doesn’t excuse his atrocious behavior.

    Sorry, just had to weigh in on Sam’s comment.

    It’s most important to have a healthy ego. I recently watched the interview with Gates and Jobs. Bill came across as an ass with a smug attitude, Steve’s comportment was that of a gentleman with class. So much for some egos.

    Thoughtful post. Thanks.

    Your huge ego? I saw no evidence of such an animal.

  • http://www.instigatorblog.com Ben Yoskovitz

    @MorganLighter: Well, I hide my ego well under layers of humility…*chuckle*

  • http://www.instigatorblog.com Ben Yoskovitz

    @MorganLighter: Well, I hide my ego well under layers of humility…*chuckle*

  • http://www.nurtur.co.uk/naked nakedjonny

    I do agree that u need a healthy ego, if you have no belief in you ideas or your ability your gonna get crushed very easily. On the other hand being a jackass is not gonna get u that far either.

  • http://www.nurtur.co.uk/naked nakedjonny

    I do agree that u need a healthy ego, if you have no belief in you ideas or your ability your gonna get crushed very easily. On the other hand being a jackass is not gonna get u that far either.

  • http://www.kcpowerclean.com Kris the window washer

    It’s tough to maintain a healthy attitude. We must maintain a healthy and steady state of an attitude everyday so that people know what to expect from you.

  • http://www.kcpowerclean.com Kris the window washer

    It’s tough to maintain a healthy attitude. We must maintain a healthy and steady state of an attitude everyday so that people know what to expect from you.

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    sometime the EGO appear without we want it.

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    sometime the EGO appear without we want it.

  • http://www.kleensees.com/ Brian

    great article, one thing I try to do everyday is leave my ego at the door right before I leave for work, so it doesnt get in the way of my job and making any decisions. Then when I get home, my ego or lack there of usually comes back to slap me in the face. Hello im here! ha

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