Comments on: Do a Better Job of Giving Constructive Criticism

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By: Whitney Hoffman

Whitney Hoffman — Thu, 25 Jan 2007 21:57:53 +0000

There’s a basic rule to critique- start positive, get your hands dirty in the middle, and then end on a positive note. This works great with co-workers, employees, students, and kids, not to mention spouses.
Example: “Hey Hon- great job with dinner tonight. It was awesome. I thought you were going to take care of the lawn after work- when do you think you could get to that? Okay, that works for me… and I know that by getting that done we’ll have the whole weekend to spend together, and maybe go to the movies.”
“Hey, kiddo- Great job keeping your stuff organized this week. It seems like you had a problem on on that test- what do you think we should do so you can be better prepared next time? Super- sounds like a plan- let’s go play a few rounds of hoops outside, what do you say?”
Works to help soften bad news, solve the problemorconflict, construct a plan forward, and ending on apositive note let’s people know what to expect going forward.

Works like a charm!

By: Whitney Hoffman

Whitney Hoffman — Thu, 25 Jan 2007 21:57:53 +0000

There's a basic rule to critique- start positive, get your hands dirty in the middle, and then end on a positive note. This works great with co-workers, employees, students, and kids, not to mention spouses.
Example: “Hey Hon- great job with dinner tonight. It was awesome. I thought you were going to take care of the lawn after work- when do you think you could get to that? Okay, that works for me… and I know that by getting that done we'll have the whole weekend to spend together, and maybe go to the movies.”
“Hey, kiddo- Great job keeping your stuff organized this week. It seems like you had a problem on on that test- what do you think we should do so you can be better prepared next time? Super- sounds like a plan- let's go play a few rounds of hoops outside, what do you say?”
Works to help soften bad news, solve the problemorconflict, construct a plan forward, and ending on apositive note let's people know what to expect going forward.

Works like a charm!

By: Ben Yoskovitz

Ben Yoskovitz — Thu, 25 Jan 2007 11:32:42 +0000

Yu – you’re right. #5 should be taking a break. I could have very easily started it:

#5 “Let’s take a break.” …

By: Ben Yoskovitz

Ben Yoskovitz — Thu, 25 Jan 2007 11:32:42 +0000

Yu – you're right. #5 should be taking a break. I could have very easily started it:

#5 “Let's take a break.” …

By: Yu

Yu — Thu, 25 Jan 2007 06:36:55 +0000

I think taking a break should be no. 5 because it’s as important as the other points. It’ll give the other person and yourself a time to just take it in.

A second point is, while you’re sticking to the technique, it’s important that your demeanor and body language doesn’t come off as offensive. You have to really want to work with the person.